The Case of the Sketchy T-Shirt
You enjoy your leadership position and have been able to spend quality time with almost every person on your residence hall floor . There is one student in particular who hasn't seemed very interested in hanging out with you, but you've finally convinced them to attend an event you planned for Wednesday night about Bystander Intervention, regarding instances of sexual violence . When they show up, you notice they're wearing a sexually suggestive, and potentially offensive t-shirt .
You know the shirt is sexually suggestive, totally inappropriate for the event, and out of dress code, but if you tell them to go and change, they probably will not come back . It will be like starting to build that relationship all over again . Only this time, you think they will be even less likely to open up to you in the future .
> What would you do?
> How do you resolve the conflict between individual freedom and the needs of the community?
You enjoy your leadership position and have been able to spend quality time with almost every person on your residence hall floor . There is one student in particular who hasn't seemed very interested in hanging out with you, but you've finally convinced them to attend an event you planned for Wednesday night about Bystander Intervention, regarding instances of sexual violence . When they show up, you notice they're wearing a sexually suggestive, and potentially offensive t-shirt .
You know the shirt is sexually suggestive, totally inappropriate for the event, and out of dress code, but if you tell them to go and change, they probably will not come back . It will be like starting to build that relationship all over again . Only this time, you think they will be even less likely to open up to you in the future .
> What would you do?
> How do you resolve the conflict between individual freedom and the needs of the community?
I would tell them the shirt is not appropriate I wouldn't make them change. I would tell them to not wear it next time and talk to the head of the event about it.I would do this to not make them mad but tell the person in charge I told them about it and to not let it happen again. This way everyones happy.
ReplyDeleteI would tell them the shirt is not appropriate at the time and that maybe next time wear a different shirt so that no one gets offended by it. I would just ask people to not say anything about his shirt so he is not offended by it. I think that he needs to be respectful to everyone else
ReplyDeleteI would tell the leader to tell them that the shirt isn't appropriate, so that I wouldn't have to be the "bad guy." I think it is more important to keep the relationship with them than try and tell them what to do and possibly lose them as a friend.
ReplyDeleteIf the shirt is extremely bad I would make them go change. I care about how people look about them (reputation), than whether or not I am friends with them. If the person gets mad and decides not to come back, and gives up on our friendship, that is their loss.
ReplyDeleteI would tell him if you dont wanna follow the rules get out of here. we dont want a person disrespecting people and what this group stands for. thank you for trying to make an attempt but you should go.
ReplyDeleteI would tell them they needed to change their shirt if it isn't appropriate then they shouldn't be wearing it. If they get offended and leave thats their problem. I'm just trying to do whats right.
ReplyDeleteI would have another person go with him as he changes to make sure he comes back. If it is an inappropriate shirt you don't want to associate yourself with that. It is pretty bad that he would even think of wearing a shirt like that, so I would have a talk with him about that later.
ReplyDeletei would tell him to change because what the heck dude. i think he just needs to be sent home. there is no reason for that.
ReplyDeleteI would tell him to turn his shirt inside out or go change it and if he doesn't come back I would just stop trying to change him because obviously he is a helpless case.
ReplyDeleteif the shirt is really really bad then i would make them go and change their shirt, but if it is not a terrible shirt maybe let it slide this on time.
ReplyDeleteIf he doesnt come back then he doesnt care but if he does come back with a different shirt then it means he cares. But depending on what the shirt said or had a picture of who cares. But just tell him if it bothers you then tell him please dont wear it again.
ReplyDeleteI would tell the person to not wear it again. and if he does wear it again then he should get further punishment. It is bad that he had to change and even worse that he even thought of wearing that shirt.
ReplyDeletei would tell him to not wear the shirt again. i wouldnt make him go change cause people have already seen it so what does it matter. If he is willing to wear it its there own fault for wearing a bad shirt.
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